Love or something like it
How is it that there are so many meanings for the word love yet more than half the population want this word to mean the same thing?. Why can't we just put our own meaning definition to love? What is it about these words that makes one quiver? How is it that this phrase I love you can turn someone off so fast yet turn another on?
How do we find ourselves in the position of being incapable of loving? I always thought it was in everyone. How are we unable to make the person we love feel the same way about us? What is it about this emotion that drives people to do crazy things? If love is suppose to be a good thing why do we find so many people killing there spouse, significant other in the name of love? If this is love then I don't want it, I don't want to be near it, I don't want to hear it, and I sure as hell don't want to have someone love me that way. I guess you could say I'm scared not of the word its self but of what it implies. What happens if someone should say I love you..... And we find ourselves not feeling that way about the person? What should happen next? Why do so many people think that when they love someone the other person should feel the same way about them, and when they find out they don't the relationship is ruined? For all of you out there who apply with this let me tell you something love is the feeling you posses, it's what you should feel towards that person no matter what happens whether they say I love you or not. It is not to be based on whether the other person says it to you. It could just be that they haven't reached that point and you have reached it there sooner in the relationship than they have. If they're to love you they will when they reach that point, not because you have said the words to them but because they actually are ready to take the next step.
Why is it that some of us fear love? I believe it to be because with loving someone comes the part of being vulnerable by giving part of yourself to that person who has captured this emotion. It may not be easy to give up this part of you to someone who may or may not understand where your coming from because they have different insights on things, but just consider that they have given up just as much of themselves to you as you have for them. The relationship is only as good as the giver puts into it, and you get out of it what you put in. I can see people fearing the words I love you because there are to many people in this world who use it frivolously, in some sense only to get someone to sleep with them.
What is love suppose to feel like? I mean I've often thought to myself is it possible to love someone whom you've never been in a relationship with and I'm talking about deeply loving them not the friendship kind of love? What kind of sensation comes along with loving someone? Am I suppose to put my own meaning/sensation to love so if I happen to get dizzy every time I see this person is that my own sign sensation to myself that I love them? I just don't get it..... People always tell me when it happens you'll know, and what happens if I miss it? Now how is this suppose to happen if I don't have am outline on what kind of sensation I should be feeling? See this is what it boils down to society tells us how we should feel and what kind of sensation comes with every kind of feeling such as when you get mad, sad, angry, happy, overjoyed etc... Except they don't tell you what sensation your suppose to feel when your actually in love. In the dictionary it tells you what you should feel but it doesn't tell you what sensation comes with loving someone. Is love suppose to be shown physically or just as an emotion? I suppose I could go on and on about something I have never experienced and get no where or I could just wait to see if one day I'll recognize love instead of understanding it. I leave you with this, I don't doubt for one second that there is love out there for all of us, it's up to us to find it and embrace it. We can't forever be afraid to love someone in fear, but be ready to love someone knowing there may be consequences and down falls to come with it. "Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love you will find that you are left holding only yourself." ~ by Leo Buscaglia ~
How do we find ourselves in the position of being incapable of loving? I always thought it was in everyone. How are we unable to make the person we love feel the same way about us? What is it about this emotion that drives people to do crazy things? If love is suppose to be a good thing why do we find so many people killing there spouse, significant other in the name of love? If this is love then I don't want it, I don't want to be near it, I don't want to hear it, and I sure as hell don't want to have someone love me that way. I guess you could say I'm scared not of the word its self but of what it implies. What happens if someone should say I love you..... And we find ourselves not feeling that way about the person? What should happen next? Why do so many people think that when they love someone the other person should feel the same way about them, and when they find out they don't the relationship is ruined? For all of you out there who apply with this let me tell you something love is the feeling you posses, it's what you should feel towards that person no matter what happens whether they say I love you or not. It is not to be based on whether the other person says it to you. It could just be that they haven't reached that point and you have reached it there sooner in the relationship than they have. If they're to love you they will when they reach that point, not because you have said the words to them but because they actually are ready to take the next step.
Why is it that some of us fear love? I believe it to be because with loving someone comes the part of being vulnerable by giving part of yourself to that person who has captured this emotion. It may not be easy to give up this part of you to someone who may or may not understand where your coming from because they have different insights on things, but just consider that they have given up just as much of themselves to you as you have for them. The relationship is only as good as the giver puts into it, and you get out of it what you put in. I can see people fearing the words I love you because there are to many people in this world who use it frivolously, in some sense only to get someone to sleep with them.
What is love suppose to feel like? I mean I've often thought to myself is it possible to love someone whom you've never been in a relationship with and I'm talking about deeply loving them not the friendship kind of love? What kind of sensation comes along with loving someone? Am I suppose to put my own meaning/sensation to love so if I happen to get dizzy every time I see this person is that my own sign sensation to myself that I love them? I just don't get it..... People always tell me when it happens you'll know, and what happens if I miss it? Now how is this suppose to happen if I don't have am outline on what kind of sensation I should be feeling? See this is what it boils down to society tells us how we should feel and what kind of sensation comes with every kind of feeling such as when you get mad, sad, angry, happy, overjoyed etc... Except they don't tell you what sensation your suppose to feel when your actually in love. In the dictionary it tells you what you should feel but it doesn't tell you what sensation comes with loving someone. Is love suppose to be shown physically or just as an emotion? I suppose I could go on and on about something I have never experienced and get no where or I could just wait to see if one day I'll recognize love instead of understanding it. I leave you with this, I don't doubt for one second that there is love out there for all of us, it's up to us to find it and embrace it. We can't forever be afraid to love someone in fear, but be ready to love someone knowing there may be consequences and down falls to come with it. "Love is always open arms. If you close your arms about love you will find that you are left holding only yourself." ~ by Leo Buscaglia ~
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